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Live, Love, Laugh

For some reason the past days have been filled with ideas, and myself being thankful for the things I have.

Take today: I went to the river with my kids. It was 100 degrees, yet sitting by the shore of the water, under the shade of the beautiful tree canopies, with good friends was PERFECT. Or bobbing around on the tube with my daughter, letting the river current takes us away……

Every once in a while, I have what we can call a “Shit Day”. As the name implies, everything that day sucks. The laundry, the yapping dog, the bickering kids, the husband who gets on my nerves, the computers that don’t work, the constant whining of people around me……those the are same days I burn myself while cooking, the giant bag of rice pops open while I try to pour, the dog food bowl gets sprawled all over kitchen so the ants come for the kibble that does not get swept up, my hair does not work…

LOL!

The other day, while giving my husband a Heike Lecture about being grateful for what he has (I like to give those sometimes…), it clicked. You know, when I told him that the sucky stuff will go away if he changes his thought pattern. Instead of telling himself over and over again how terrible this and that is, he says: “Wow, I have a FABULOUS wife, great kids, a roof over my head, I still have my jobs, and even the dog loves me.” Sound familiar? It is what they tell us in “The Secret”. And I realized that that is our fundamental difference. I can’t wake up and think doom. Yes, it may make me seem a bit Airy Fairy, but that is ok. He is the Serious One, and we must find our middle.

Or just keep watching “The Secret” over and over and over.

Much love,
Heike

What I am reading: Drums in Autumn!! Yahoo! Love it. Now all I want to do is drink whiskey and say “arse” :).

What I am grateful for: My life.

What I am manifesting: Sales :). Check out my new Facebook page:
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/pages/Goddess-in-the-Groove/123470391528?ref=ts

Live, Love, Laugh

For some reason the past days have been filled with ideas, and myself being thankful for the things I have.

Take today: I went to the river with my kids. It was 100 degrees, yet sitting by the shore of the water, under the shade of the beautiful tree canopies, with good friends was PERFECT. Or bobbing around on the tube with my daughter, letting the river current takes us away……

Every once in a while, I have what we can call a “Shit Day”. As the name implies, everything that day sucks. The laundry, the yapping dog, the bickering kids, the husband who gets on my nerves, the computers that don’t work, the constant whining of people around me……those the are same days I burn myself while cooking, the giant bag of rice pops open while I try to pour, the dog food bowl gets sprawled all over kitchen so the ants come for the kibble that does not get swept up, my hair does not work…

LOL!

The other day, while giving my husband a Heike Lecture about being grateful for what he has (I like to give those sometimes…), it clicked. You know, when I told him that the sucky stuff will go away if he changes his thought pattern. Instead of telling himself over and over again how terrible this and that is, he says: “Wow, I have a FABULOUS wife, great kids, a roof over my head, I still have my jobs, and even the dog loves me.” Sound familiar? It is what they tell us in “The Secret”. And I realized that that is our fundamental difference. I can’t wake up and think doom. Yes, it may make me seem a bit Airy Fairy, but that is ok. He is the Serious One, and we must find our middle.

Or just keep watching “The Secret” over and over and over.

Much love,
Heike

What I am reading: Drums in Autumn!! Yahoo! Love it. Now all I want to do is drink whiskey and say “arse” :).

What I am grateful for: My life.

What I am manifesting: Sales :). Check out my new Facebook page:
http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/pages/Goddess-in-the-Groove/123470391528?ref=ts

Ok, then, just kiss my butt.


Not you, this darn computer!
The original post had a different title, but since it crashed (FireFox that is) 3 times and lost all the photos, AND I had to upload all AGAIN…I am done, you hear? What is a visual post without photos???

So this is the last time. It better work. I am saving it right after this sentence, so if the post seems unfinished later, it is.

Ok, now on with my real post:

Wow…it has been a week since I wrote.

Honestly, my mind is so cluttered and chaotic right now, I do not make much sense to anyone but me.

So, I will write this post in pictures, and captions, for the “visualist” in all of you :). Much love, Heike


My daughter had the wonderful idea to look for a pair of MY (25+ year old) shoes to wear with HER (11 year old) outfit. I know I have cool shoes, but where did those big feet come from?? How can it be that I am already sharing shoes???


Ahhh..the last minute creative prep. New Goddesses, Goddess Rocks (they rock!), Beer Cap Pies, and some beans, freshly harvested from the garden. How does all this come together? I don’t know, but this IS my life.


Goddess on the Rocks! Digging into my piles of rocks, I MAY be a bit of a rock hoarder…making beautiful use of them.


At the festival, with 2 hours of sleep, getting up early to take the dog to doggy day care. My cart broke, and we had to lug all this stuff in 100 degree heat. I did not have coffee yet. “SMMIIIIIIILLLLLLE” she says. Ugh. In the end, the festival was a bust. Never again, my Goddesses say..

Ok, then, just kiss my butt.


Not you, this darn computer!
The original post had a different title, but since it crashed (FireFox that is) 3 times and lost all the photos, AND I had to upload all AGAIN…I am done, you hear? What is a visual post without photos???

So this is the last time. It better work. I am saving it right after this sentence, so if the post seems unfinished later, it is.

Ok, now on with my real post:

Wow…it has been a week since I wrote.

Honestly, my mind is so cluttered and chaotic right now, I do not make much sense to anyone but me.

So, I will write this post in pictures, and captions, for the “visualist” in all of you :). Much love, Heike


My daughter had the wonderful idea to look for a pair of MY (25+ year old) shoes to wear with HER (11 year old) outfit. I know I have cool shoes, but where did those big feet come from?? How can it be that I am already sharing shoes???


Ahhh..the last minute creative prep. New Goddesses, Goddess Rocks (they rock!), Beer Cap Pies, and some beans, freshly harvested from the garden. How does all this come together? I don’t know, but this IS my life.


Goddess on the Rocks! Digging into my piles of rocks, I MAY be a bit of a rock hoarder…making beautiful use of them.


At the festival, with 2 hours of sleep, getting up early to take the dog to doggy day care. My cart broke, and we had to lug all this stuff in 100 degree heat. I did not have coffee yet. “SMMIIIIIIILLLLLLE” she says. Ugh. In the end, the festival was a bust. Never again, my Goddesses say..

Would they respect her more?

We just watched a few nature shows on PBS, and an interesting discussion came up.

If HUMANS were forced to live the way nature intended, would they respect Gaia more?

– It humans lived like they did before the modern conveniences of air conditioning and heat, of deep freezers and processed foods out of a box, would they respect the Earth for the wonderous living, nurturing creature it is? Would they celebrate the Seasons again, adjusting to survive each one?
– If they had to wait for the cool breeze to cool off instead of switching a button, would they fear global warming more?
– If they had to hunt for their food, kill it, skin it, cut it, then prepare it for storing, would they respect the life-giving energy of a cow or other animal more than they do now, seeing only a slab of meat on some styrofoam?
– What if everyone had to grow their vegetables or fruits themselves, would they respect nature more, or even just the hard labor of love of an organic farmer (who again, respects Gaia too much to poison her with pesticides)?
– Would families live in clans again to support each other? Would families sleep together for warmth, instead of being separated, each in their own room, if there were no heaters?
– Would they take shorter showers, if the showers were cold? Would they have smaller tubs, if they had the haul the hot water in by buckets, and out again the same way?
– Would they build sprawling suburbs were farms used to be, if they had to walk everywhere, use a bike or a horse buggy?

Watching the encroachment of animals, all in the name of human sprawl and convenience, and the blatant oblivion to the destroying of our Earth saddens me. It is just another choice humans are making, without thought of the future. I do wonder if we were just “unburdened” by all these conveniences for a short time, if it would open the eyes of HUMANS and save our Mother Earth from further abuse?

Just some thoughts from our dinner table, with love.

Would they respect her more?

We just watched a few nature shows on PBS, and an interesting discussion came up.

If HUMANS were forced to live the way nature intended, would they respect Gaia more?

– It humans lived like they did before the modern conveniences of air conditioning and heat, of deep freezers and processed foods out of a box, would they respect the Earth for the wonderous living, nurturing creature it is? Would they celebrate the Seasons again, adjusting to survive each one?
– If they had to wait for the cool breeze to cool off instead of switching a button, would they fear global warming more?
– If they had to hunt for their food, kill it, skin it, cut it, then prepare it for storing, would they respect the life-giving energy of a cow or other animal more than they do now, seeing only a slab of meat on some styrofoam?
– What if everyone had to grow their vegetables or fruits themselves, would they respect nature more, or even just the hard labor of love of an organic farmer (who again, respects Gaia too much to poison her with pesticides)?
– Would families live in clans again to support each other? Would families sleep together for warmth, instead of being separated, each in their own room, if there were no heaters?
– Would they take shorter showers, if the showers were cold? Would they have smaller tubs, if they had the haul the hot water in by buckets, and out again the same way?
– Would they build sprawling suburbs were farms used to be, if they had to walk everywhere, use a bike or a horse buggy?

Watching the encroachment of animals, all in the name of human sprawl and convenience, and the blatant oblivion to the destroying of our Earth saddens me. It is just another choice humans are making, without thought of the future. I do wonder if we were just “unburdened” by all these conveniences for a short time, if it would open the eyes of HUMANS and save our Mother Earth from further abuse?

Just some thoughts from our dinner table, with love.

The best things in life can be FREE!


After spending a month SpiritZapping, I think my next focus will be: “What great things in life are FREE?”

With the zapping, a profound thread emerged. How can we maintain a quality of life on a shoestring budget? I surely did not invent thriftiness, but I will continue to share what I can :).

I also want to mention that you are not alone out there. I did receive several private emails during the month, and thank you all for sending them :). It warms my heart to know that I can support you on this journey, and that my posts may have made a difference, or just opened a door to new thoughts!

One of the recent emails, published with permission, although I changed the names to protect the Lovelies :)…

“I love your new spirit-zappers postings!

Welcome to my world! We pay cash for everything and it’s really difficult when you need things like new tires or any kind of extra expense. It SUCKS! We have no credit cards and probably couldn’t afford the payments if we did. Credit cards can become a crutch and then people end up paying monthly on them and don’t have cash so they have to keep using the cards. I’m glad we don’t have credit card debt but sometimes I wish we had them so that we could use them in an emergancy like when we need new tires (my tires are bald and could pop anytime) or to pay for dental work. I recently broke two of my molars and don’t have dental insurance so I am really worried. Even getting a hair cut is such a luxury. It cost me $40 for XXX to cut my hair which might as well be $400 with our current budget. (snippet removed to protect the Lovelies) LOL! I can just imagine that John would flip out too if you paid $40 to get a hair cut. Maybe I could go every two or three months. We’ll see. I can totally understand that she has to earn a living so I don’t begrudge her at all and she does a fantastic job and is worth every penny.

Most of the time I’m just grateful that we have a roof over our heads. This economy has really taken it’s toll on us. Luckily XXX was able to get some handyman work and painting/building some cabinets on the side for some extra cash which helped a lot. He still has not found a job. My sister was laid off from her job last week. She had been with the company for 10 years.

We don’t have cell phones because that was the first luxuries to go when XXX was laid off. XXX always wonders how teenagers and people on welfare manage to have fancy cell phones. That’s a pet peeve of his. Our luxuries lie in distraction through TV and Internet. We have a comcast package that includes phone, internet and cable for $100/month and my internet is high on my priority list because it offers a gateway into so much information and keeps me connected with friends and family. I would go bananas without it! Recently I splurged on Netflix, though I don’t know for how long. I feel guilty spending $9/month on it even though it isn’t that much, it is when you live on a shoe string. I LOVE Netflix though. (snippet removed to protect the Lovelies) I get the sale ads from Safeway and SaveMart and buy ONLY what’s on sale. Haven’t bought new clothes in over a year. I guess I spend my clothing budget on my internet. Thrift shops don’t usually carry anything I would want to wear in my size.

When I watch the news on TV I get depressed hearing about unemployment and state budget crisis…etc. When I saw what was going on in Iran, I did feel very fortunate that we are not it that kind of crisis and I felt sorry for those people. I think we have taken for granted so much that we were accustomed to enjoying in life. Having the rug pulled out from under me has been a real eye opener as to being grateful for the little things. There was a time in my life when I could not even fathem living the way I am now. I expected more, perhaps I still do. I know I do. Even when I thought I didn’t have a lot, I really had more than I imagined and even now, when I am living on less, it’s more than some people have. I just wish it would get better and soon. Universe?!? Are you listening?!?

One of the things I admire about you is that you live simply and you do it with style. Your home is warm and cozy and you make not having a dishwasher seem tre~chic. LOL! You find things to do that are free or low cost and it’s fun to be around you. We have some other friends who keep asking us to go camping and stuff but I told XXX that as much as I love these people, they are likely to want to go out to a nice resturant for dinner or something that would cost $$$ and we wouldn’t be able to afford it and I wouldn’t want to be a damper on their fun or even have them pay for us. You know what I mean? If I went camping it would be very simple and we’d be eating what we brought, no fancy stuff. No stopping at the casinos or anything like that. When we say we are on a tight budget we mean it. What we have is what we got and if it’s gone, it’s gone…. There ain’t no money tree growing in my back yard. Hell! I don’t even have a yard right now!

It takes everything I can muster to stay positive and focus on moving forward with hope and determination that this time in our lives will get better. Somedays I just have to take a xanex and try to block it out. =)”

I am sharing this with you, because I think it is important to see that no one is alone in this. ONE of my responses is that when you decide to live your authentic life, those around you will respect you for it, and those that do not will fade away. It takes a certain amount of courage to be authentic :)…

So now I am enjoying this beautiful Sunday! My men are off on a fishing trip on the search for the GIANT carp :), and my daughter and I are preparing for a day of making Goddesses and girly stuff.

P.S. The picture above is one we took on our recent Blackberry adventure…complete with scars and spirits :)…you can read more at Green Sub Mama.

Enjoy your Authenticity!
Heike

What I am reading: “Voyager”. Finally! Drawn back in, feeling a connection with the Highlanders….
What I am grateful for: The simple things in life that me happy.
What I am manifesting: Sales….

The best things in life can be FREE!


After spending a month SpiritZapping, I think my next focus will be: “What great things in life are FREE?”

With the zapping, a profound thread emerged. How can we maintain a quality of life on a shoestring budget? I surely did not invent thriftiness, but I will continue to share what I can :).

I also want to mention that you are not alone out there. I did receive several private emails during the month, and thank you all for sending them :). It warms my heart to know that I can support you on this journey, and that my posts may have made a difference, or just opened a door to new thoughts!

One of the recent emails, published with permission, although I changed the names to protect the Lovelies :)…

“I love your new spirit-zappers postings!

Welcome to my world! We pay cash for everything and it’s really difficult when you need things like new tires or any kind of extra expense. It SUCKS! We have no credit cards and probably couldn’t afford the payments if we did. Credit cards can become a crutch and then people end up paying monthly on them and don’t have cash so they have to keep using the cards. I’m glad we don’t have credit card debt but sometimes I wish we had them so that we could use them in an emergancy like when we need new tires (my tires are bald and could pop anytime) or to pay for dental work. I recently broke two of my molars and don’t have dental insurance so I am really worried. Even getting a hair cut is such a luxury. It cost me $40 for XXX to cut my hair which might as well be $400 with our current budget. (snippet removed to protect the Lovelies) LOL! I can just imagine that John would flip out too if you paid $40 to get a hair cut. Maybe I could go every two or three months. We’ll see. I can totally understand that she has to earn a living so I don’t begrudge her at all and she does a fantastic job and is worth every penny.

Most of the time I’m just grateful that we have a roof over our heads. This economy has really taken it’s toll on us. Luckily XXX was able to get some handyman work and painting/building some cabinets on the side for some extra cash which helped a lot. He still has not found a job. My sister was laid off from her job last week. She had been with the company for 10 years.

We don’t have cell phones because that was the first luxuries to go when XXX was laid off. XXX always wonders how teenagers and people on welfare manage to have fancy cell phones. That’s a pet peeve of his. Our luxuries lie in distraction through TV and Internet. We have a comcast package that includes phone, internet and cable for $100/month and my internet is high on my priority list because it offers a gateway into so much information and keeps me connected with friends and family. I would go bananas without it! Recently I splurged on Netflix, though I don’t know for how long. I feel guilty spending $9/month on it even though it isn’t that much, it is when you live on a shoe string. I LOVE Netflix though. (snippet removed to protect the Lovelies) I get the sale ads from Safeway and SaveMart and buy ONLY what’s on sale. Haven’t bought new clothes in over a year. I guess I spend my clothing budget on my internet. Thrift shops don’t usually carry anything I would want to wear in my size.

When I watch the news on TV I get depressed hearing about unemployment and state budget crisis…etc. When I saw what was going on in Iran, I did feel very fortunate that we are not it that kind of crisis and I felt sorry for those people. I think we have taken for granted so much that we were accustomed to enjoying in life. Having the rug pulled out from under me has been a real eye opener as to being grateful for the little things. There was a time in my life when I could not even fathem living the way I am now. I expected more, perhaps I still do. I know I do. Even when I thought I didn’t have a lot, I really had more than I imagined and even now, when I am living on less, it’s more than some people have. I just wish it would get better and soon. Universe?!? Are you listening?!?

One of the things I admire about you is that you live simply and you do it with style. Your home is warm and cozy and you make not having a dishwasher seem tre~chic. LOL! You find things to do that are free or low cost and it’s fun to be around you. We have some other friends who keep asking us to go camping and stuff but I told XXX that as much as I love these people, they are likely to want to go out to a nice resturant for dinner or something that would cost $$$ and we wouldn’t be able to afford it and I wouldn’t want to be a damper on their fun or even have them pay for us. You know what I mean? If I went camping it would be very simple and we’d be eating what we brought, no fancy stuff. No stopping at the casinos or anything like that. When we say we are on a tight budget we mean it. What we have is what we got and if it’s gone, it’s gone…. There ain’t no money tree growing in my back yard. Hell! I don’t even have a yard right now!

It takes everything I can muster to stay positive and focus on moving forward with hope and determination that this time in our lives will get better. Somedays I just have to take a xanex and try to block it out. =)”

I am sharing this with you, because I think it is important to see that no one is alone in this. ONE of my responses is that when you decide to live your authentic life, those around you will respect you for it, and those that do not will fade away. It takes a certain amount of courage to be authentic :)…

So now I am enjoying this beautiful Sunday! My men are off on a fishing trip on the search for the GIANT carp :), and my daughter and I are preparing for a day of making Goddesses and girly stuff.

P.S. The picture above is one we took on our recent Blackberry adventure…complete with scars and spirits :)…you can read more at Green Sub Mama.

Enjoy your Authenticity!
Heike

What I am reading: “Voyager”. Finally! Drawn back in, feeling a connection with the Highlanders….
What I am grateful for: The simple things in life that me happy.
What I am manifesting: Sales….

SpiritZapping in a Nutshell

After 30 days of SpiritZapping, I have some thoughts:

1. I am still not quite used to paying cash for groceries and “extracurricular” activities. The first week I had $17.82 left over, the second week I ended up with $1.73 at the end of the week. Today, I bought $35.00 worth of fruit under the amused eye of German lady at our newly found fruit stand. That is alot of fruit, but my kids have already eaten half of it. They both had the “effects” of lots of stone fruit, LOL, so $17.50 virtually went down the toilet…

Wlth that said, paying cash is really opening our eyes, and making me say “NO” to quick fast food meals or other little extras that slurp our money.

Once we are over the shock, we will venture into paying cash for everything.

2. Taking each SpiritZapper area individually, and making it my day’s mission to blast it, made things much easier. It is much less overwhelming this way, and the sense of accomplishment is FABULOUS! Now the challenge is to keep them clean. It also made me realize how much unnecessary junk we have, and how that zaps my energy every day :(.

3. 30 days is not enough.

4. One of my days was commissioned for “deleting” SpiritZapping people from my life. That is truly empowering. Cutting those ties. It does not mean I don’t love them, or that I am deleting my history with them. I am just letting them go because they do not make me happy.

5. See Nr. 1. I do believe if more people would look at their spending, not only in time of need or economic disaster, they would get back the basics and stop being spenders, consumers, trashers. I love that my posts made some people re-evaluate, and that they empowered them to take the first step. 🙂

6. My kids are keeping their rooms clean. They are awesome. Once I gave them the base, they were able to go in and FEEL the good vibes :). Now they are doing it on their own. They are also helping keep the other parts clean, they are taking responsibily.

I am going to do this again, but am taking a break from it now. I think zapping “publicly” was a challenge on it’s own, since I felt obligated not just to myself, but to the “public” :).

Thank you for following along with me, I hope I have inspired you to Blast your own SpiritZappers!

Much love,
Heike

SpiritZapping in a Nutshell

After 30 days of SpiritZapping, I have some thoughts:

1. I am still not quite used to paying cash for groceries and “extracurricular” activities. The first week I had $17.82 left over, the second week I ended up with $1.73 at the end of the week. Today, I bought $35.00 worth of fruit under the amused eye of German lady at our newly found fruit stand. That is alot of fruit, but my kids have already eaten half of it. They both had the “effects” of lots of stone fruit, LOL, so $17.50 virtually went down the toilet…

Wlth that said, paying cash is really opening our eyes, and making me say “NO” to quick fast food meals or other little extras that slurp our money.

Once we are over the shock, we will venture into paying cash for everything.

2. Taking each SpiritZapper area individually, and making it my day’s mission to blast it, made things much easier. It is much less overwhelming this way, and the sense of accomplishment is FABULOUS! Now the challenge is to keep them clean. It also made me realize how much unnecessary junk we have, and how that zaps my energy every day :(.

3. 30 days is not enough.

4. One of my days was commissioned for “deleting” SpiritZapping people from my life. That is truly empowering. Cutting those ties. It does not mean I don’t love them, or that I am deleting my history with them. I am just letting them go because they do not make me happy.

5. See Nr. 1. I do believe if more people would look at their spending, not only in time of need or economic disaster, they would get back the basics and stop being spenders, consumers, trashers. I love that my posts made some people re-evaluate, and that they empowered them to take the first step. 🙂

6. My kids are keeping their rooms clean. They are awesome. Once I gave them the base, they were able to go in and FEEL the good vibes :). Now they are doing it on their own. They are also helping keep the other parts clean, they are taking responsibily.

I am going to do this again, but am taking a break from it now. I think zapping “publicly” was a challenge on it’s own, since I felt obligated not just to myself, but to the “public” :).

Thank you for following along with me, I hope I have inspired you to Blast your own SpiritZappers!

Much love,
Heike