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A letter to my 13 year old self

In 2007, I was 38, I wrote a letter to my 13 year old self as part of a blog Meme.

I loved reading this again, and will now add my 40’s.

I hope this inspires you to write to your budding teenage self!

(clearing throat, wiping eyes)

Dear Heike,

Yipee! You are 13!! Finally, you hit your teens. Isn’t this the day you have been waiting for? If you could only be like all the other thirteen year olds…but you can’t. It is ok, soon, you will not have to change so much to fit in. Actually, you will be honored because you are so different.

The rest of your teens are filled with adventure, a few authentic friends, and many people who just want to take advantage of you. Heed them! And do not let them into your house. You will know who your true friends are, and they will be with you for a long time. Be nice to your mama, she is doing the best she can. If I could keep you off that motorcycle, I would. Too many close calls :), but you are a bit of a wild child with a very sensible brain.

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Fuzzy blast from my 20’s past

Your 20’s start out with a bang, and an accident that will change your life. You will think it is the end of the world, but it is not. You will survive the pain, the uncertainty, and all the follow up operations. And you will carry all the scars with pride, because you have conquered. When you are MUCH older, you will discover Frida Kahlo, the courageous and ingenious artist who had a brace just like you. I promise, you will overcome. A man you can’t stand to be around becomes your soulmate, and you will marry him. When you are 28, you will have a baby they say you will never have. She is a miracle.

Your 30’s are pretty awesome. You are a mama now, and you have learned from many of your past mistakes. Everything you endured growing up, will now make you strong and opinionated. You will become a Goddess, and finally find your clan. You will also find your path, and all your past and present dreams will make more sense. They are your calling. You will have another baby, and they are both fabulous. You are an artist, and your hands make you happy.

Your 40’s make you feel like you are 25 again. Not in the body, but the BRAIN! Your Spirit is vibrant, and feisty! You begin to get more interested in politics, because you want to make your home a better place to live. You become a very vocal pain in the butt, and people know your name, even if it is a bit difficult for people to say! Your children are now teens, and they are pretty opinionated, fantastic humans. They are a lot like you are now: primal, smart, feisty, wild, and they drive you crazy. Your daughter is the confident young Goddess woman you wanted her to become, she has enough confidence for a whole country.  You are becoming a mentor for a younger generation, as you walk between the lines of society. You are the keeper of the Goddess, and your work is with women & girls, making them warriors. You are still working with your hands, your dreams, and your intuition.

As you get older, your life just keeps getting better. Just like a good wine ;).

Love,
Heike

And THIS is how you raise a Barbie Girl.

My daughter is causing a stir 🙂 I am so proud.

A
few weeks ago, she wrote an article on the Huffpost Teen in response to
the “Should there be a plus sized Barbie?” question, and the debate if
girls should play with Barbie at all. If you have not read it, here you
go:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/justina-sharp/post_6626_b_4596855.html

Can you see it already?

Here is the thing. I raised this girl to be a
GODDESS. She named herself Athena at a young age. And, I played Barbies
with her. Alot. You see, I played with Barbies when I was a little girl,
and there was no way in hell I was going to deprive her, or myself,
from dreaming up imaginative, glittery, pink worlds. I got the evil
eyes, the whole “but Barbie gives girls unrealistic body ideals” spiel,
and more. I did not care, because quite frankly, “I” did not look to
Barbie for health/body/training advice, ever. If society is looking for a
culprit that is teaching our young girls unrealistic ideals or low
self-esteem, it needs to look elsewhere. Honestly, the people who argued
this point with me when my daughter was little looked like they could
use some glittery pink in their lives.

Right now, I am tracking them down personally and sending them these articles my daughter wrote :).

You
see, I have a 16 year old daughter that has enough self esteem for two
countries. She is smart, outspoken, confident, glittery, down to earth,
adventurous, ambitious, healthy, aware……who does that remind you
of?? Me! And BARBIE?

Barbie is now in Sports
Illustrated. Of course! She is gorgeous in a swim suit. She is about as
“real” as the other models they feature. The debate is on. Should Barbie
be featured in Sports Illustrated? LOL!! Yes, why not? My daughter will
tell you why she thinks so:
http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2014/02/11/should-barbie-be-in-sports-illustrated/barbie-is-a-positive-role-model-and-a-legend

Barbie is a doll. She is a super woman, and why wouldn’t we want our girls to play with someone so fabulous? BTW, Miss Piggy is quite fabulous & “outspoked” too, and no on is worried about her ruining our girls. We
women are responsible for raising strong, independent, and aware girls.
It is not up to a doll, a celebrity, or anyone else to be the one they
look up to.

Basta.

Friday/Saturday Meme

A little task from DJ Kirby who obviously doesn’t think I have enough “stuff” in my life! Now she wants me to:

1. Link back to the person who tagged you. DJ KIRBY I thank you for subjecting me to this… I get the feeling this is going to be a challenge!

2. Imagine you could send a letter back in time to yourself, when you were 13 years old, what would you write to yourself?

3. Tag 5 people to inflict this on

Dear Heike,

Yipee! You are 13!! Finally, you hit your teens. Isn’t this the day you have been waiting for? If you could only be like all the other thirteen year olds…but you can’t. It is ok, soon, you will not have to change so much to fit in. Actually, you will be honored because you are so different.

The rest of your teens are filled with adventure, a few authentic friends, and many people who just want to take advantage of you. Heed them! And do not let them into your house. You will know who your true friends are, and they will be with you for a long time. Be nice to your mama, she is doing the best she can. If I could keep you off that motorcycle, I would. Too many close calls :), but you are a bit of a wild child with a very sensible brain.

Your 20’s start out with a bang, and an accident that will change your life. You will think it is the end of the world, but it is not. You will survive the pain, the uncertainty, and all the follow up operations. And you will carry all the scars with pride, because you have conquered. When you are MUCH older, you will discover Frida Kahlo, the courageous and ingenious artist who had a brace just like you. I promise, you will overcome. A man you can’t stand to be around becomes your soulmate, and you will marry him. When you are 28, you will have a baby they say you will never have. She is a miracle.

Your 30’s are pretty awesome. You are a mama now, and you have learned from many of your past mistakes. Everything you endured growing up, will now make you strong and opinionated. You will become a Goddess, and finally find your clan. You will also find your path, and all your past and present dreams will make more sense. They are your calling. You will have another baby, and they are both fabulous. You are an artist, and your hands make you happy.

As you get older, your life just keeps getting better. Just like a good wine ;).

Love,
Heike

I am now tagging the following 5 people ( I just realized that there are not alot of blogs I follow, but these are all excellent :)…..have fun meeting them!) :
A bag of Olives, Wooly Works, Lisette, Kill your Lunch Hour, A Mom in Red High Heels